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AN 6.12 Dutiyasāraṇīyasutta: Warm-hearted (2nd)
“Mendicants, these six warm-hearted qualities make for fondness and respect, conducing to inclusion, harmony, and unity, without quarreling. What six?
Firstly, a mendicant consistently treats their spiritual companions with bodily kindness, both in public and in private. This warm-hearted quality makes for fondness and respect, conducing to inclusion, harmony, and unity, without quarreling.
Furthermore, a mendicant consistently treats their spiritual companions with verbal kindness …
Furthermore, a mendicant consistently treats their spiritual companions with mental kindness …
Furthermore, a mendicant shares without reservation any material possessions they have gained by legitimate means, even the food placed in the alms-bowl, using them in common with their ethical spiritual companions. This too is a warm-hearted quality.
Furthermore, a mendicant lives according to the precepts shared with their spiritual companions, both in public and in private. Those precepts are unbroken, impeccable, spotless, and unmarred, liberating, praised by sensible people, not mistaken, and leading to immersion. This too is a warm-hearted quality.
Furthermore, a mendicant lives according to the view shared with their spiritual companions, both in public and in private. That view is noble and emancipating, and leads one who practices it to the complete ending of suffering. This warm-hearted quality makes for fondness and respect, conducing to inclusion, harmony, and unity, without quarreling.
These six warm-hearted qualities make for fondness and respect, conducing to inclusion, harmony, and unity, without quarreling.”
--- Aṅguttara Nikāya 6.12 Dutiyasāraṇīyasutta: Warm-hearted (2nd), translated by Bhikkhu Sujato
Bhikkhus, in regard to external factors, I do not perceive another single factor so helpful as good friendship for a bhikkhu who is a learner, who has not attained perfection but lives aspiring for the supreme security from bondage. Bhikkhus, a bhikkhu who has a good friend abandons what is unwholesome and develops what is wholesome.
--- From Itivuttaka 17 Dutiyasekhasutta: The Good Friend, translated by John D. Ireland
Advice from Buddha to Moggallana
[...] So you should train like this: ‘I won’t get into arguments.’ That’s how you should train. When there’s an argument, you can expect there’ll be lots of talking. When there’s lots of talking, people become restless. Being restless, they lose restraint. And without restraint the mind is far from immersion.
From AN 7.61, translated by Bhikkhu Sujato
Mendicants, these four things are born of love and hate. What four?
- Love is born of love,
- hate is born of love,
- love is born of hate, and
- hate is born of hate.
And how is love born of love? It’s when someone likes, loves, and cares for a person. Others treat that person with liking, love, and care. They think: ‘These others like the person I like.’ And so love for them springs up. That’s how love is born of love.
And how is hate born of love? It’s when someone likes, loves, and cares for a person. Others treat that person with disliking, loathing, and detestation. They think: ‘These others dislike the person I like.’ And so hate for them springs up. That’s how hate is born of love.
And how is love born of hate? It’s when someone dislikes, loathes, and detests a person. Others treat that person with disliking, loathing, and detestation. They think: ‘These others dislike the person I dislike.’ And so love for them springs up. That’s how love is born of hate.
And how is hate born of hate? It’s when someone dislikes, loathes, and detests a person. Others treat that person with liking, love, and care. They think: ‘These others like the person I dislike.’ And so hate for them springs up. That’s how hate is born of hate.
These are the four things that are born of love and hate.
AN 4.200 - Love and Hate - Translated by Bhikkhu Sujato
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Defeat anger with kindness,
villainy with virtue,
stinginess with giving,
and lies with truth.Speak the truth, do not be angry,
and give when asked, if only a little.
By these three means,
you may enter the presence of the gods.
--- Dhammapada 221–234 Kodhavagga, translated by Bhikkhu Sujato
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If, mendicants, a mendicant cultivates a mind of love even as long as a finger-snap, they’re called a mendicant who does not lack absorption, who follows the Teacher’s instructions, who responds to advice, and who does not eat the country’s alms in vain. How much more so those who make much of it!
AN 1.53: From Accharāsaṅghātavagga: Section on A Fingersnap, translated by Bhikkhu Sujato