#sympathy
The techniques for stopping holy wars, or at least limiting their damage, are pretty much the same everywhere. Even if you are positive your side is right, try to find some way to express #sympathy and #understanding for the points the other side is making. Often the problem in a holy war is that because each side has built its walls as high as possible, and made it clear that any other #opinion is sheer foolishness, the act of surrendering or changing one's mind becomes psychologically unbearable: it would be an admission not just of being wrong, but of having been certain and still being wrong. The way you can make this admission palatable for the other side is to express some uncertainty yourself - precisely by showing that you understand the #arguments they are making and find them at least sensible, if not finally persuasive. Make a gesture that provides #space for a #reciprocal gesture, and usually the situation will improve. You are no more or less likely to get the technical result you wanted, but at least you can avoid unnecessary collateral damage to the project's morale.
--- Karl Fogel, in his book Producing Open Source Software
(Highlights and hashtags added by me)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKP6DU6Vjt0
#bias #behaviouralscience #psychology #groupthink #interesting #introspectioncueing
#confirmationbias #cognitiveillusions
#insuficientinformation #engagelogicalslowthinking #withholdprematureconclusion #tapthebreaks
#biastoeasyanswers #biastonarratives #narratives #inconsiderate #bullying #usvsthem #redvsblue
#cherrypicking #evidencecherrypicking #cherrypickingevidence
#seeingwhatyouwanttosee #usingreasoningtofitprejudice #illusions
#massformationpsychosis #howithappens
"We make many of our most important decisions based on what can only be called cognitive illusions. This is embarrassing for us to realise, but the evidence for it is undeniable."
so to that, i say:
"there is no shame in the truth." -- Minbari Religious Cast Elder to Student, Babylon5.
"head into the wave." -- me / old saying / unattributed
as in find your way to where you no longer defeat yourself with your subborn clinging to your self image as one who makes no such errors.
embrace the errors.
then you are on the path. then you are learning.
our confirmation bias, our cognitive illusions, are due eternal vigilance, to not succumb to their blinding arogance and mental/investigative/scrutinative sloth.
this is true whether stupid, or oh so much more clever.
especially if you are oh so much more clever.
because if you really are oh so much more clever, you will suffer more fuel on that fire.
and also, thinking you're oh so much more clever, is improbably true. not that i'm saying truth's always derivable, or even aproachable, through simple statistical analysis, but... since we're always going on a little information, and the dangerousness of how little that information is, can be worsened by how much littler we make it by our confirmation-biasing, cognitive illusions, our slothful lazy hastey grasp on shortcuts, we dont even realise, we're doing it, we dont even realise how little we have, and we tell ourselves we have a lot, we tell ourselves as much as we have, is a lot of what there is, even to the extreme, that it's all there is. unwittingly, we become know it alls, with next to nothing. and we think we're the smarty-est.
there's no shame in the truth.
we're not that smart.
we're not as smart as we think we are. no shame in the truth, that we think we're smart, and that we think that's smarter than we are.
knowing this,
helps us get smarter.
wiser.
wise enough to continue learning.
wise enough to catch ourselves from short-handed thinking.
wise enough to see when we have, and wise enough eagerly accept that, and even point it out to others. wise enough to accept we'll likely never absolutely be beyond this, and even more likely are not beyond it right now, and so reapplies the humility introspective vigilance, not to identify as one who has risen above it, but to persist in plucking away and batting away all the times it has happened already, and all the times more oncoming.
"all i know is i know nothing, and sometimes i forget even that much." -- Me, often, but not often enough without vanity, not often enough really heeding what i (and socrates) mean by it.
#alliknowisiknownothing
#alliknowisiknownothingandsometimesiforgeteventhatmuch
still vulnerable to us-vs-them'ing. like you.
(ps, i forget where i got that link from, but thanks again to whoever shared it. ^ all that from merely first 20 minutes. .... lets see where it goes.)
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#cognitiveoverload #worry
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#arewethebaddies
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#consciousness
#universallove
#enlakech
#empathy
#consider
A quotation of Schopenhauer, Arthur
What makes people hard-hearted is this, that each man has, or thinks he has, as much as he can bear in his own troubles.
Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860) German philosopher
“Further Psychological Observations,” Essays of Arthur Schopenhauer: Studies in Pessimism [tr. Saunders (1851)]
#quote #quotation #burden #compassion #empathy #hardness #indifference #self-pity #suffering #sympathy #trouble #unpitying
More notes and sourcing: https://wist.info/schopenhauer-arthur/43252/
it is cringe,
finding oneself,
on the same side,
as the stopped clocks,
who usually have views you find abhorrent.
but i remain unshook,
not going to lie to conform,
not going to lie to not appear as the abhorrent.
unswayed by that social pressure,
to groupthink, to clique,
to parrot in action,
reaffirming,
the divide and conquer,
unthinking, sheeple shuffle,
side-eye, inner lie,
seeking truth in statistical probabilities,
within the confirmation bias silo,
no.
not doing that.
not the epistemologically sound way,
not integrity to the search for truth.
got integrity in the search for truth.
find an epistemologically sound way,
yes doing that.
yes.
outside the confirmation bias silo.
seeking truth beyond prejudicial presumptions,
look straight, look around,
think in, think out, think all about,
connect and rediscover,
requestioning,
re-harkening alter-view,
another perception, to click,
unswayed by that social pressure,
not going to lie to not appear as the abhorrent.
honoring free considerately,
none forsook,
not even those with views abhorrent.
sympathy for stopped clocks,
same side or not,
wherever found,
beyond first cringe.
#DigitsPoems #DigitsRaps #DigitsLyrics
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“I am not claiming that #TV can save lives, but it can change temperatures, and those temperature changes in turn might save lives. #Empathy is a powerful tool in any argument, and disabled people need that empathy rather than #sympathy. People have been fighting these fights for a very long time, and frequently #disabled fights are isolated ones, ones where there is no grand #compassion from the population as a whole to hold the fight up.”
#DisabilityRights #DisabilityDiscrimination #DisabilityHate #DisabilityDeath